Of course, it’s great to go on holiday with friends and family, but sometimes it’s not always a case of the more the merrier. You should consider carefully where you choose to go, and how you manage one another’s company when you get there.

A break in a holiday cottage can be a great way to spend extended time with friends, and family, but be sure to take necessary precautions so you don’t all fall out.

Choose Wisely

What do you all want out of your holiday? If some people in your group want to just relax while others want all-out activity, how are you going to reconcile these different expectations?

One way is by location – choose a holiday cottage near to civilization but also the countryside and links to other areas.

If there are a lot of kids in your group, be sure you’ll have enough for them to do, regardless of age range.

Also, think of the accommodation itself. Will there be enough rooms for those who don’t want to share, and is there good mobile phone and internet reception – it’s a brave set of parents who expect their children to go tech-free while holed up with them in a holiday cottage.

Who Does What?

Obviously, with self-catering holidays, there are tasks and responsibilities involved, so it’s best to get these sorted out early on, otherwise you risk festering resentment if certain members of your group perceive that they are doing far more than others.

It may be that you don’t want to get too official with a rota, but at least be aware if someone seems to be bearing too much burden of responsibility for certain tasks, such as cooking meals.

Other People’s Kids

When it comes to their own, and other children, people have different ideas about rules and discipline, so respect one another’s boundaries, and if things do appear to be getting out of hand, try and have a quiet word first, rather than launching all-out war.

No one likes their parenting skills criticised, and you want to avoid a breakdown in relations while you’re all under one roof. Diplomacy is the key.

Perhaps jointly agree some house rules at the outset.

Valuable Me Time

Just because you’ve gone on holiday together as a group doesn’t mean you must do everything together.

It makes sense for your group to split into smaller parts to get some time to themselves if this is what people want.

Remember, the whole point of going on holiday is to enjoy yourself, and not everyone will enjoy doing the same thing at the same time.

When in doubt, give people the space they want, and don’t get obsessed with too many small details, such as who’s had more helpings of that nice cake you got from the local farmers’ market.

You’ve come on holiday because you all get on. Try to keep it that way.